Journey into instant parenthood: meanwhile in SLC

While Jessica was unintentionally becoming a single mom of two kids, I was unknowingly preparing for the time of my life. 

I was never really great in the dating world, for many reasons. I never liked to play the games that men and women play while dating. You know, the whole wait two days before you call or let the phone ring just to make them wonder what you are doing. Those things just aren't me; if I liked you, I would say it, if I wanted to text you then I would text you. That's not what everyone wants, but I wanted to be able to be myself with the girl I was dating. 

Another reason I was not great in the dating world was because I am not an outgoing person really. So, most of my relationships pre-Jessica, were through work because barriers were broke down and girls got to know me better. Relationships and work do not mesh.

So.... while Jessica was going through her struggles, I was going through mine. 

It's funny how things in your past prepare you for what you are going through now or in the future. I believe that one of the reasons Jessica fell for me, is because I fell for her and didn't play like I didn't. It's something she liked, the honesty and straight forwardness. For all the single people out there, it doesn't always pay off to play the games.  

A journey into instant parenthood: prelude

It all began with a boy and a girl. 

The girl is now my wife. The boy is now her ex-husband. 

When you are sixteen, you feel like you are old enough to make your own decision. You feel like you should be an adult and have most, if not all, of the answers. 

I can imagine as a parent of a teenager, you just pray that your child doesn't make any life-changing mistakes decisions. When you have a plan for something (your life, your child's life, the day...) you think that's the best or only way for it to go. So when something goes astray, it is a "mistake" or a bad thing. But it can also be a blessing. 

Well, that girl (Jessica) got pregnant with little Braxton by her boyfriend in high school and decided to marry the father. The result of the marriage was a tough divorce and a beautiful girl named Cadence. The two kids that would change my life forever came from this "bad" relationship. 

It's all a matter of perspective. At the time, no one would have said that Jessica getting pregnant was a good thing, but now we can't imagine life without Braxton. Looking back, Jessica marrying the father of Braxton, was a mistake but then we wouldn't have Cadence. I believe that everything happens for a reason. A lesson to learn, a blessing in disguise, an experience to help someone else out later in life. We just don't know what it may be, but there is a reason for everything.